About Melissa
Marriage and trauma counsellor in Centurion, Pretoria
Active Member of the Southern African Sexual
Health Association NPC (SASHA) 2022, membership number:
SASHA 597
ASCHP registered; registration nr 895; licence nr WC21/1
Hi! I'm Melissa.
I’m passionate about empowering those struggling emotionally or physically in their relationship with their spouse or with their own past sexual traumas.
Besides working with couples and individuals facing difficulties regarding sexual experiences, I have a heart for those struggling with their own identity. I understand topics surrounding sexual traumas, sexual experiences and sexual identities have been handled as shameful by many in the Christian world. I want to create a safe place in which to find healing and bringing down the stigma and shame around it. Besides this I also work with Partner Betrayal Trauma.
The root and the fruit
I envision each person as a clean slate at the moment of conception.
I see them as clear and pure.
However we do not stay that way. We already inherit generational curses. That sits right in our spiritual DNA.
Now we are not clear and unscathed anymore.
Our spirit is aware and living.
When our mother or father for example says anything negative about our existance, the pregnancy – a fearful thought, a negative remark, it sits in our spiritual DNA.
This spiritual DNA starts to form the root system of the tree we grow into in the figurative sense of speaking.
Each of these negative and positive things that occurs and sits in our root system and gets reinforced each time that a negative or positive word is spoken over or to us.
Our rejection root grows bigger each time we feel a slight rejection, hear a bad remark, pick up negative body language from our parent. Our primary carer often lays our most prominent trait of our identity.
As we grow up this root system grows and we start to eventually bear fruit. This is our throughts and behaviours and habits.
Negative and positive. Often we do not know why we have these negative fruit and often can very successfully remove the fruit. Only to have it grow back in another form.
I do not treat the fruit in essence. I will, with sensitive precision delve into all your roots and its intricate systems to find where the exact moment of hurt started, even if it was in infancy or in the womb.
Let's talk!
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renew.me.counselling@gmail.com
Whatsapp/ phone: 0797109622
Zwartkop
Centurion, Pretoria
